July 8, 2010
My darling hairstylist Amy is preggers with her first baby. She is due in September but has promised me that she will only take three months maternity leave. It's going to be a very difficult time; sleepless nights, constant crying, excessive whining -- but I'll try not to annoy The Boyfriend too much with my complaining and carrying on. I have no other option than to await Amy's return.
Despite the fact that she's leaving me and my grey hairs to fend for themselves I'm happy for her and want to give her a few things to make her journey into motherhood a beautiful thing.
In 2001 I discovered Anne Lamott and her wonderful book Bird By Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life. As I always do, when I find a writer I adore, I bought everything she'd written. One of her little gems (they were all great) was Operating Instructions: A Journal of my Son's First Year. A single mom with a bit of a drinking problem (and not joining AA anytime soon) she discovered parenthood wasn't all she'd been led to believe. She'd been lied to -- and she wanted to set the record straight. It wasn't all sweet smelling baby heads and tender bonding moments. It was actually alot of crap (literally), it could be totally discouraging and sometimes you really did feel like throwing the baby out with the bath water. Not having kids of my own, this book only confirmed my decision. But I felt her pain and I wanted to warn all of my baby-inclined friends. Every time a friend said she was pregnant, or that a friend of hers was pregnant, I rushed out, bought a copy, thrust it in their trembling hands and said "Read this! Read this before you no longer have time to read, or brush your teeth, or shower." And they all read it and laughed and wept. And had more babies.
So Amy gets a copy.
Posted by Lianne at 4:00 PM